Monday, June 18, 2012

Reflections from Valued Restoration Ministries' Interns




Ministry of Presence (by M.C)

At Restoration Ministries we serve a population that others sometimes neglect.  Throughout their lives, the precious young girls we minister to are neglected and abused. It takes time and commitment to break through their hardened exteriors, but most importantly it takes the love of Christ.  We strive to display to each girl the love of her  Heavenly Father who sees special promise in her, who deeply desires to resurrect the parts of her spirit beaten down by abuse, and who will never leave her or forsake her. We do this by slowly, carefully building trusting and honest relationships.  We give each girl a safe place in which to open up her heart. Our goal is to develop long-term friendships with the girls we serve in order to bring them to wholeness in Jesus Christ.   

We often say we are a ministry of presence. This year the Lord has revealed to me the power of continuing to show up and give time and gentle attention to those who feel broken, alienated, and forgotten.  One afternoon I was coloring quietly with a young lady that I have been seeing for months when she looked up at me and said, “I know now that God is real and that he loves me because you always show up. I never have to doubt that you will be here. You just love me, without judging me, and you don’t even have to”.  Her comment almost brought me to tears as I realized that slowly the Lord had begun to reveal himself to her through one person’s simple act of just showing up.

So we continue to show up each week, and the Lord is present with us and moving in our midst!  This year so far we have had the opportunity to speak purpose and destiny into our girls’ lives on numerous occasions through holding parties, making art together, and sharing thoughts in group discussions.  One week we discussed self-esteem and the girls beamed from ear to ear as they talked about how God sees them as beloved daughters, victorious, righteous, and precious in His sight. It was beautiful to see the Lord dispelling the lies that are ingrained so deeply in the girls and filling those empty spaces with His truth.

As we continue to be faithful with what He has entrusted to us, the Lord stays close at our side. . Each day we see the cracks in our girls’ self-protective shells widen a little bit, and we are reminded over and over that “where the spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.” – M.C.

A Legal Intern's Reflections on Rewarding, yet Heartbreaking work


Reflections from a Restoration Ministries' Intern (by B.I.):

Interning at Restoration Ministries in Washington, D.C. has already proven to be a great learning experience. I go every Friday to the Psychiatric Hospital of Washington and every Monday to the juvenile detention center called the Youth Services Center to meet with around twenty girls ranging in age from 11 to 17, some of whom have been sex trafficked, to participate in what the founder of Restoration Ministries, Candace Wheeler, calls “a ministry of presence.” During my second week at Restoration, I was called upon, due to a change in staffing, by God and Candace to lead the teams at the psych hospital and juvenile detention center in our weekly discussions. As a mom of three boys, I found it a little daunting to deal with a room full of girls, but have grown to love it and to really love the girls. They need so much of it. Restoration has also been blessed with a great team of women this summer, and I feel honored to work with and know each of them. A true team spirit prevails here.

During our time at both facilities, we read through a discussion sheet focused on a particular topic for that week and follow that up with an art activity that compliments the discussion. The discussions always deal with spirituality, health and wellness, prostitution and trafficking, or job skills but always with a Christian focus and scripture.  This week, my last of four weeks of leading discussions, I was blessed with a team of musicians to play worship songs, and I taught the girls sign language for signing the words of part of one of the songs. It was a big hit and led to a prayer circle time at both facilities that led to the girls’ speaking out their own prayers to God, something they also write on paper so we can tape it to our “wailing wall” and continue to pray over back at the organization. It was powerful and moving, and God was clearly present. Some girls began to cry and to seek one-on-one attention and prayer from the team, which each of the members was glad to do, the true rewards of the work.

The goal of every discussion time is to get the girls to open up and begin talking with the ultimate goal of building relationships with them. It’s through that process that they are more ready to reveal the truth about the things they have experienced, including sex trafficking. Once it’s clear that there is a possibility of a girl having been trafficked for sex, Restoration Ministries begins another level of working with her, sometimes for years. The work is both rewarding and heartbreaking and the success stories, due to the complexities of sex trafficking and the layers of trauma, are incremental, and few and far between. However, Candace has never wavered in her commitment to the challenge and calling God has put on her life. She has walked for over eight years through the trials that come with this work to maintain that commitment with an integrity and determination that God is beginning to reward in great ways. It has been a wonderful time to be interning here to see what God does when we are faithful.

Candace’s goal for any law student interning at Restoration Ministries is to provide the intern the opportunity to get to experience the reality of girls who have been trafficked, in hopes it will create a greater sensitivity towards the victim for the intern’s future practice in law. In addition, a legal intern is able to get a firsthand understanding of domestic rather than international trafficking, something that often gets overlooked. I have been richly rewarded in both of these ways.

My other responsibilities as a legal intern have been to create legal agreements for new volunteers, interns, and independent contractors; to attend D.C. and Northern Virginia Task Force meetings; to meet with the local judge who handles all of the prostitution cases dealing with juveniles; to meet with the U.S. Attorney who heads the D.C. Trafficking Task Force, and to attend several forums on trafficking, one at the state-of-the-art FBI Northern Virginia Resident Agency in Manassas, Virginia. I will soon be doing a nighttime ride along with local police officers who focus on prostitution and possibly will be able to sit in a few prostitution court cases.

Add to all of that how much I love the city with its unbelievable number of people; my hour commute to and from Bethesda, Maryland on a sometimes un-air-conditioned and always jam-packed crowded Metro train; the long, high escalators leading out of the dimly lit train tunnels to my lovely summer home and host in Bethesda; the restaurants on every corner with every possible delicious cuisine; and the amazing sights in D.C. including my favorite recent discovery, the National Gallery of Art’s Sculpture Garden. This is where tourists and interns alike sit in the midst of a circle of neatly pruned trees by a reflecting pool, shoes on the ground behind them, cooling their feet in the pool’s waters, feet steaming from the blocks and blocks of required D.C. walking. Arcs of water stream across the pool, starting low and rising to a crescendo, all meeting in the middle. Breathtaking! Yesterday, a duck dive-bombed into the pool to get crackers from some kids sitting near me. I have never seen a duck from quite that angle, legs dangling as he soared above trying to pick the perfect landing spot. I feel like that duck. First year of law school is like legs dangling, looking for a place to land. I feel I’ve found it for this summer. Thanks so much to those who have made it possible, Candace, Regent, and donors. Six more weeks and lots more to come…. – B.I. 

To Learn and To Serve


Reflections from a Restoration Ministries' Intern (by C.W.):

 I had no idea what to expect coming into my job at Restoration Ministries (RM). The one thing I was for sure about is that it is exactly where the Lord wanted me.

The first day of my internship I walked in expecting a morning prayer meeting (as my boss had mentioned to me in an email). I love conversing with the King so I figured it would be an awesome start to the day and I really thought it was just going to be a start to the day. Well, after meeting my boss and touring the office I found out that it was not just a morning prayer meeting but that Thursdays are prayer DAY. We spent time in prayer/worship from 9am until around 3:30 in the afternoon. Awesome! I admit, I was a little intimidated coming into a prayer meeting for an organization I knew very little about. But, the fact that this ministry operates out of reliance on our creator was such an encouraging first impression!

Through time in prayer, I really got to see how much my boss, Candace, really trusts God for. She asks for small and specific things as well as big things beyond our control. As my co-workers prayed, I listened and started learning about the ministry and what they actually do. I was filled with questions that spilled out as soon as we had a break from prayer. It was such an interesting way to get a feel for the organization.

I learned that a big part of what RM does is to go into the Youth Detention Center and Psych Institute weekly and provide a prostitution/intervention and prevention program. The girls age from 11-17 and have been brought to these facilities for things such prostitution, running away from home, self-harm, or suicidal tendencies. Each weekly meeting has a different topic of focus that could range from sex trafficking to future careers. RM gives each girl an intake form to try and gauge her history of sexual exploitation. If RM feels that the girl has been a victim of sex trafficking, further measures are taken to gain more information and provide services/resources for the girl’s healing.

RM also seeks to establish long-term relationships with the girls so that when they are released from their current facility, they have a place to turn for further help. This is just a summary of the work that RM does and has been doing over the past 8 years, there is still even more that goes on.

Before starting this internship there were two things that I felt the Holy Spirit wanted me to expect: to learn and to serve. It has been less than three weeks and I have already seen those things play out. I have been learning so much by spending time with Candace and other team members. Candace has had to sacrifice so much for this ministry that the Lord has obviously called her to. She has been so faithful to His prompting but it has not been easy. D.C. has been a hard place to plant this ministry and finding community to back her up has also been a trial; however, she stays faithful. It is so encouraging to see how much Candace really believes the Lord and trusts Him. I feel that a big reason I am here this summer is to serve her and lift her up as the Lord continues to use her. I am also so blessed by Beth who is a legal intern here at RM. She has children my own age but has honestly become such a good friend and sister to me already. She has an incredible story that Christ has and is using in her life. He shines brightly in it and that has so challenged me.

Though much of my work is very “interny” and mundane, that was expected and I am happy to do it. I am so blessed to be able to spend time with the girls at all. I feel a strong calling to be here and the Lord is definitely sustaining. Not everyday is joy-filled but I am praying that I can find gratitude in small things such as making copies or organizing files.

"His master replied, 'Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master's happiness!'” Matthew 25:23  - C.W.


Through a Man's Eyes

Reflections from a past Intern (by M.L.)

As a man working at Restoration Ministries, I was changed in a way I will never forget.  As a third-year counseling student seeking a practicum site, I discovered this ministry to sexually exploited girls and decided to get involved. When I first walked into the center to meet with the director of the program, I immediately saw the Wailing Wall filled with prayer requests from the girls they were working with at the Youth Service Center (YSC) and The Psychiatric Institute of Washington (PIW), and it made an impact.  

I was generally aware of human trafficking but believed it was mainly happening in foreign countries. By reading articles from CNN and other online resources, I became more aware of prostitution and sex slavery in the United States. While growing up in Northern Virginia, I had heard of areas in D.C. where women were being prostituted.  However, learning the facts from third parties made the reality feel distant. I did not take it seriously since I did not have any direct involvement with the issue and it did not affect anyone I knew. All of that changed when I started working personally with girls at YSC and PIW through Restoration Ministries. The real damage of sex trafficking is undeniable when a girl is sitting in front of you, telling her story.

 To hear from these young girls how so many of them had survived being molested and raped by their own family members, before finally being sold into prostitution, was gut-wrenching.  Their heartbreaking stories of being abused sexually, emotionally, and mentally are ones that have stuck with me and caused me to re-evaluate how I view and relate to the women in my life.

One area I have dealt with is the messages and references made toward women in the music and movies I consume. Before working at Restoration Ministries, I saw a “pimp” as a man who was able to have a lot of women, and I saw the number of women a man had as a badge of merit. However, seeing up close the damage a pimp really causes changed the way I saw that type of man. This simple concept helped me re-evaluate the things I watch and listen to, which is something all Christians should do.  The Bible says in Romans 12:2 “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Working with these girls meant that I had a rare chance to see with new eyes how my actions might affect others, and gave me an opportunity to learn how to truly convey God’s love to them.  

After realizing the impact men had in the lives in these girls, and how deeply I as a man could influence the women around me, I knew that I would always be a work in progress. There will always be the need for me to renew my mind and set boundaries on what I watch, what I listen to, and how I act. I encourage every man to monitor what he allows to enter his mind.  The Bible clearly states in Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”  There is nothing that we will indulge that will not surface in our actions and in our relationships. Let’s be careful what we let into our minds, so that we can know that what flows from our hearts will be Godly love.   – M.L.


Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Restoration Ministries hosts their 5th Annual Benefit Concert!


On Friday, March 16, a diverse and vibrant crowd gathered at Ebenezers Coffeehouse to listen to the musical talents of Bethany and the Guitar and learn more about the programs and services provided by Restoration Ministries for survivors.  We had an amazing turnout and want to thank everyone who made the evening a success!


Restoration Ministries team members and board members


Bethany and the Guitar band members


Emcee Elizabeth Knox interviewing Founder and Director; Candace Wheeler
 and Caseworker; Megan Cesar


Tuesday, November 15, 2011

In the midst of darkness, an RM case worker sees glimmers of incredible Hope:

As a counselor in training I have always had hopeful aspirations of “changing lives”. It has always been my heart’s desire to be used by the Lord to bring hope and healing to the broken that He loves so much. What those of us in the helping professions often don’t consider is that in our attempt to change lives we will be radically changed ourselves.

At Restoration Ministries we go into the youth detention center and the psychiatric hospital each week and the girls share their lives with us. We are allowed the privilege to walk with them through their pain. As we meet them where they are each week they begin to let down their guard. They embrace us even with all our imperfections and over time relationships begin to form. We see the Lord touch their lives and as a result we are changed.

Through this process the Lord has radically shifted my view of life through my interactions with these girls. As I hear their stories of brokenness I am overwhelmed by such deep pain that only He can heal; but I am also witness to their hope, strength, and resiliency. I am amazed each week at how He is faithful to move in our midst. It is the seemingly small moments that have the greatest impact on me in this ministry.

My first day as I walked through six doors that slammed locked behind me at the youth detention center something deep within me shook. I entered the classroom and looked into the eyes of 8 young girls that sat sleepily in front of me and thought "they are just kids Lord, how can they be here?” They went on to share their hopes and dreams with us that day. They had such big dreams for their future; they wanted to travel, to be doctors, lawyers, counselors, and artists.

As I sat with one young lady during her craft she began to open up to me, “I want to change my life when I get out of here and I don’t want to end up back here” she said, “I want to be a counselor and to help people who have been through the pain I have been through”. She beamed from ear to ear as we continued to talk about her goals and I had the opportunity to speak God’s truth into her life. As group came to a close she hugged me tightly and thanked me for talking to her. I was overwhelmed with God’s love for her and began to get just a small glimpse of why we do what we do at RM.

In the past two months I have seen more than 80 different girls, each with a story to tell if someone would just take the time to listen. In September, we met Lisa* who cried as she shared with the group that she felt like she had no value.   Her father sexually abused her then stuffed her in a trash can filled with water to drown her.

In October, we met Daija* who shared that she was ashamed because her aunt tied her to a chair and made her watch pornography when she was 7 years old.  We also met Cassie* who had the entire group in tears as she shared about her former heroin addiction and how she wanted to change, but nobody in her life believed in her. Everyone from her parents to her judge told her she was nothing but a menace to society who could never be anything, but trouble. She sobbed as she screamed, “I just want to be loved is that too much to ask?”. The girls in group hugged her and we cried with her as we told her we loved her and about God’s love for her. The entire group asked for prayer that day. The stories could go on and on, they never get easier to hear, but they all impact us and cause us to look to the only ONE who can heal hurt this deep.

Perhaps the most impactful experience for me was my encounter with a 15 year old girl named Mariah*. After group one day Mariah was sharing her story with one of the other RM team members. She became overwhelmed by her pain and ran back into the classroom in tears. I sat next to her on the sofa and she fell into my arms. As she sobbed she whispered through her tears “it’s not my fault, I’m scared and I don’t want to die”. When I asked her why she feared for her life she was too overwhelmed to share, so I asked her if I could pray for her. I held her in my arms and prayed over her until she was calm enough to talk. She went on to share with me that she had been forced to have sex, beaten, and held at gun point several times when she ran away from home and she didn’t feel safe going back. In the past month we have continued to work together both in group and on an individual basis. I have seen tremendous progress. As she continues to share her story with me, God brings opportunities for me to share His love and His plan for her life. In addition to talking about her story, we have worked on coping skills for her anxiety and goal setting for the future.  However, most importantly she agreed to let me share her story with her social worker so that she can get the help she needs when she leaves the hospital. There is still tremendous healing that needs to take place, but the healing process has begun. God in His goodness has given me the grace to take part in that healing process even if only for a short time.

In this ministry stories like these are endless. Some people ask me if I get mad at God for the horrible things I hear or if I feel hopeless. The answer is no; I see the hope every day. We continue to show up and in turn God is faithful to show up as well. I have realized we may be the only love and truth some of these girls ever experience. Lives are changed one moment at a time as we continue to yield ourselves and allow ourselves to be used by God.

Written by M.C., posted by L.L.

Monday, October 24, 2011

2011 DC Stop Modern Slavery Walk

Several members of the RM team!

Starting the walk to the fantastic, upbeat drums!
Thank you to those of you who came out and supported Restoration Ministries at the 2011 DC SMS walk! It was a beautiful, crisp October morning and activists from all over the D.C. metro area were energetic as we joined other anti-human trafficking organizations to take a stand against modern day slavery.  Check out our album on Facebook to see more pictures: http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.265087550193573.55121.123643591004637&type=1  

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

DC Stop Modern Slavery Walk - This Saturday!



Join us this Upcoming Saturday, October 22, 2011 for the D.C. Stop Modern Slavery Walk.  Join hundreds of other advocates against modern slavery and human trafficking as we walk on the mall taking a stand against injustice.  Sign up at: http://www.kintera.org/faf/home/default.asp?ievent=482690 and join the Restoration Ministries team. 


From the event website: The event will include a 5K walk, anti-trafficking resource fair, luminary speakers, and incredible musical performances.


Schedule:

8:00 - 9:00 am - Check-in
9:00 am - Walk Begins 
10:15 am - Performers, Speakers & Information Fair Begins
1:00 pm - Event Ends
How:
All participants must register to walk.  Children 13 and under can participate for free, but must also register (required by the National Park Service).
 
Length of Walk:
5K (3.1 miles) 
There is also an alternate .5 mile walk around the pond by the family activity area.
 
Where:
National Mall - Constitution Gardens
Constitution Avenue NW and 20th St NW Washington DC
 

Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Celebrating 8 years of service, Restoration Ministries hosts the annual Esperanza Award Banquet

Dr. Benjamin Keyes receiving the Esperanza Award and Candace Wheeler (Founder and Director of Restoration Ministries)

On Friday, September 23, 2011, Restoration Ministries held their annual fall banquet at the Fairfax Country Club.  Supporters and advocates gathered together to celebrate Restoration Ministries' 8 years of service.  Dr. Benjamin Keyes, Director of Regent's Universities Center for Trauma Studies was awarded this year's Esperanza (Hope) Award for his development of the HEART therapeutic model in working with survivors of trauma.  Good food and good times were had by all!  Thank you to everyone who helped make this event a success!

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Please Join Us for the 2011 Esperanza Awards!

Restoration Ministries Annual Celebration


Friday, September 23, 2011
Reception at 6:00 pm
Dinner 6:30 - 8:30 pm
Country Club of Fairfax
5110 Ox Rd.
Fairfax, VA 22030


Honoree and Keynote Speaker Dr. Benjamin Keyes
Ph D, Ed. D., LPC
Author of HEART, Healing Emotional Affective Responses to Trauma; clinical application
Regent University, School of Psychology and Counseling


Cost: $100 for Individual Ticket
RSVP by: Tuesday, September 20, 2011
For more information email: info@restorationministriesdc.org

Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Ambassadors of Restoration


Restoration Ministries is pleased to announce the launch the Ambassadors of Restoration Program, a non-direct service opportunity for students, small groups and churches from all over the United States to advocate for the survivors of domestic sex trafficking. Ambassadors will have the opportunity to learn about the issue for themselves as well as raise awareness in their communities.

For more information about how you can become and Ambassador of Restoration, please contact Tanya at tanya@restorationministriesdc.org

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

International Christian Alliance on Prostitution 2011 Conference

“Liminality”.  This new word struck a cord with me as I sat in a workshop during the 2011 International Christian Alliance on Prostitution (ICAP) Conference.  Liminality, I learned means “the place in-between”.  The workshop leader emphasized the importance of making space for the survivors you work with to ask questions, wrestle with the “Why’s?, and take some time in that place in-between their trauma and healing.  

This year’s conference was held at the serene Green Lake Conference Center in Green Lake, WI.  This lakeside retreat was perfect for direct service providers, those fighting on the front lines against human trafficking and prostitution around the globe.  It was a breath of fresh air for the individuals and organizations who give endless time, energy, and God-given passion to serve such a unique demographic.

40 countries were represented at this year’s conference.  Members from each country proudly sang worship in their own tongue, wore beautiful native dress, and came to share what the Lord is doing with survivors in other areas of the world.  In addition to offering therapeutic services, many of these organizations offer training in a new trade or skill.  They sold beautiful hand-made jewelry, scarves, purses, clothes and pieces of art.  

The speakers, Elsy Carvlho, Jill Briscoe, and Rhea Briscoe used their hearts for ministry to refresh and re-energize the ICAP community.  God spoke through these dynamic women to encourage everyone in attendance.

From the ICAP website: “The International Christian Alliance on Prostitution (ICAP) unites, equips and empowers practitioners and advocates who compassionately challenge injustice and offer freedom to people exploited by prostitution, including sex trafficking.”  To learn more, please visit www.ICAPglobal.org.

(L.L.)

Friday, May 6, 2011

Honor your Mom this Mother's Day with a gift to Restoration Ministries!

Celebrate your mother this Mother’s Day with a donation made in her honor to Restoration Ministries, a Christ-centered organization in Washington, DC that works directly with young women who have fallen victim to sex trafficking. Your gift will help to fund therapeutic programs for these young women.

If you would like to make a gift to Restoration Ministries, please visit our website at www.restorationministriesdc.org and click Donate. Or you may send checks made payable to Restoration Ministries to:
Restoration Ministries
PO Box 15674
Washington, DC 20003

Please use the certificate below to let the special woman in your life know how much she means to you.

Happy Mother’s Day!
To:
From:
In your honor, a gift of hope for sexually
exploited girls has been given to
Restoration Ministries.

This ministry seeks to bring wholeness to those caught
in the trap of sex trafficking.  The gift helps to fund
therapeutic programs from these young women.

Restoration Ministries
www.restorationministriesdc.org